FaceBook, Twitter, Instagram, and good old fashion texting keeps us very connected with those around us, or does it? Social media plays a big role in our lives, as does checking emails, texting friends, and surfing the internet. Because we are surrounded by technology we feel we have connection at our fingertips. I feel that there is a time and place for our handheld devices; however there needs to be more balance. Real connection is being pushed to the backburner to FaceBook updates and Snap Chat.
We fill our planners with so much ‘do to’ activities that we don’t have time for real connection, so we substitute with technology. Is there really any substitution for face to face conversation, quality time spent with loved ones, or sit down dinners with out handhelds vibrating or buzzing. I get it, tech free connecting takes effort, it takes precious time, and sometimes we just don’t feel up to the task. Nevertheless, the rewards we reap for reaching out to our partner and family are worth the inconvenience.
We are relational creatures, designed to thrive when we are connecting with others. It is very easy to get into a rut when it comes to feeling like you are not connected to the ones you love and care for the most. It is during this time that you have a choice to dig the rut deeper or make a change.
The first step to committing to connection is to implement an E-Break. An E-break is a designated time period where all electronic devices are turned to the off position and stowed away. Some of you might be hyperventilating at the thought of giving your iPhone a break, but trust me, it’s priceless when you do. You regain the state of mind that does not need to be going a million miles an hour. You refocus on what is important and often times what is right in front of you, your partner, your children, and your life.
This week try to implement an E-break in your life. If you are single turn off all electronic devices and go do something very enjoyable with a friend, with no interruptions. If you are in a relationship turn to your partner and have a real conversation. Have you been married a while and feel like you have nothing to talk about, pick up the book, The 5 Love Languages (Chapman) and take turns reading out loud to each other. Another idea that my husband and I do, each week, is play checkers. Whoever wins choses, either a chore for the other to do or my favorite, a back massage. If you are fortunate enough to have children do a family game night, Hasbro always has $5.00 off coupons online.
When you are going through your E-break take notice of how your body is feeling during the interaction and be grateful that you took this opportunity to reconnect.